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The tiny Canadian town where 7,000 people found refuge on 9/11

Air passengers who had their planes diverted to Gander, Newfoundland, recall the terror in the skies and the kindness of strangers on the ground

Jim DeFedeSunday August 22 2021, 12.01am BST, The Sunday TimesShareSave

The beaten-up Volvo rattled to a stop in front of Lakewood Academy. The driver climbed out and, along with her son, lowered the station wagon’s tailgate and slid an enormous pot out of the car. Struggling to carry it to the school’s front door, a pair of men lifted it from them and brought it into the building. The mother and son returned to their car and drove off. Hardly a word was spoken.

Rabbi Leivi Sudak watched the scene unfold with intense curiosity. Since arriving in Newfoundland the day before — September 11, 2001 — he was looking for signs as to why he was one of the nearly 7,000 passengers, from 38 international flights, who had been diverted to the small Canadian town of Gander.

Rabbi Sudak was flying from London to New York on that tragic September morning. He planned to pay his respects at the grave of the longtime leader of the Lubavitch movement, an ultra-orthodox branch of Judaism, Rabbi Menachem Mendel Schneerson. Sudak would say his prayers, return to the airport and arrive home in Edgware that night.

Rabbi Leivi Sudak questioned why he had been brought to Gander

Rabbi Leivi Sudak questioned why he had been brought to Gander

Instead he found himself stranded in this Canadian province, where 97 per cent of the population is either Catholic or Protestant and the only synagogue is more than 200 miles away. In his mind the question remained: why did God bring him to this place? “I was constantly looking for reasons,” he now recalls 20 years later. “Why am I here? What is my purpose? What is my function?”

Perhaps the pot held an answer, he thought. He learnt that a local family, who had received a hard-to-come-by permit during hunting season, decided instead of storing the moose they’d killed to get them through the winter, they would use a portion of it to help feed all those stranded passengers.

“They took this precious meat and made this massive stew for the visitors,” Sudak explains. “They’d driven a distance of 100km to deliver it. This was just one example of the outpouring of kindness, of generosity, from these people.”

The stew offered a lesson of charity. But the Orthodox rabbi was still looking for an answer to the question of why he was there. In a matter of days he would have his answer, and as he told me recently it changed his life for ever.

American Airlines Flight 11 struck the North Tower of the World Trade Center at 8.46am on September 11, 2001. Seventeen minutes later United Airlines Flight 175 slammed into the South Tower. At 9.37am American Airlines Flight 77 hit the Pentagon near Washington DC. A fourth hijacked plane, United Airlines 93, crashed into a Pennsylvania field after passengers fought to take back control of the aircraft that the hijackers had intended to crash into the US Capitol building.

Television coverage of the attacks on the World Trade Center

Television coverage of the attacks on the World Trade Center

From that moment on, every plane in the air was considered a threat.

“Get those goddamn planes down,” Norman Mineta, then US transportation secretary, shouted to his staff from a bunker under the White House.

The order to close US airspace had never been given before. Every civilian aircraft — 4,546 planes, ranging from private Cessnas to jumbo jets — was told to land immediately at the closest available airport. At the same time all international flights heading to the United States were told to turn back or find another country to land in. Pilots were warned that if they entered US airspace they would be shot down.

Approximately 400 international flights were already in the air during the September 11 attacks, the majority coming from Europe. Some planes turned back, but many continued on, believing that by the time they reached the United States the skies would be reopened.

The Lufthansa captain Reinhard Knoth remembers those initial moments well. Flying an older model 747 from Frankfurt to New York, he had just turned on the autopilot when he picked up scattered radio transmissions between pilots from other airlines. “There’s something happening in New York,” a KLM pilot excitedly announced. “An accident.”

Lufthansa captain Reinhard Knoth

Lufthansa captain Reinhard KnothFLORIAN SIEBECK

Knoth switched to the BBC and listened as they broadcast the first reports of a plane crashing into the North Tower. Knoth and his co-pilot speculated it was probably a small plane and maybe the pilot had suffered a heart attack. Then suddenly the BBC announcer declared that a second plane had hit the towers. Knoth knew this was no accident. A pilot for 30 years, he understood that no crew would deliberately crash their plane into a building. Those planes were hijacked.

He sent a teletype message to Lufthansa headquarters in Germany asking for instructions. Should he turn back? He was reaching a point of no return over the Atlantic — 30 degrees longitude. Once you cross it, you are committed to flying to North America. But he heard nothing, and as the minutes ticked away he crossed that invisible line. There was no turning back now.

His thoughts turned to a different concern. There were 354 passengers on his plane, including Petra Roth, the mayor of Frankfurt, and Werner Baldessarini, the chairman of Hugo Boss. Were any of his passengers would-be hijackers waiting to take over the aircraft? Knoth looked over his shoulder at the cockpit door. It wasn’t very sturdy. And then he realised something else: it wasn’t even locked.

Radar imagery from Gander airport at the time

Radar imagery from Gander airport at the time

As Knoth and scores of other pilots continued their long flights toward the US, American fighters were flying sorties over big US cities. If Osama Bin Laden was responsible for the attack — as officials quickly surmised — he had cells operating in Europe. Could those European flights still harbour terrorists? Were they waiting to strike once the planes came close to their destinations? The US wasn’t taking any chances. The order to shoot down any plane entering US airspace remained.

Jean Chrétien, the Canadian prime minister, watched the towers fall on television. His security detail wanted to move him out of the prime minister’s residence and into a secure location. “I declined,” Chrétien says with a dismissive shrug. “We were not going into hiding.”

Recalling that fateful day, Chrétien tells me he always thought the US decision to deny entry to the planes flying in from Europe was too extreme. “We felt it was a bit panicky in our judgment,” Chrétien says. “We decided to keep our sky open. I could tell you that was a very difficult decision. But for us we felt that it was the right thing to do. The planes were in the air and they had to land somewhere.”

In the end more than 250 aircraft, carrying 43,895 people, were diverted to 15 Canadian airports, from Vancouver in the west to St John’s in the east.

One town, however, became synonymous with the effort: Gander, located in the heart of the island province of Newfoundland. Thirty-eight planes were diverted to Gander, delivering 6,595 passengers and crew into a town of barely 10,000 people.

The runway at Gander airport on September 12, 2001

The runway at Gander airport on September 12, 2001REUTERS

In my 2002 book, The Day the World Came to Town: 9/11 in Gander, Newfoundland, I wrote: “For the better part of a week, nearly every man, woman and child in Gander and the surrounding smaller towns — places with names like Gambo and Appleton and Lewisporte and Norris Arm — stopped what they were doing so they could help. They placed their lives on hold for a group of strangers and asked for nothing in return. They affirmed the basic goodness of man at a time when it was easy to doubt such humanity still existed.”

In the 20 years since I first visited Gander to research my book, I’ve kept in touch with the townspeople and the passengers I interviewed (several of whom are portrayed in Come from Away, the hit musical about Gander, now in the West End). As the anniversary of 9/11 looms and the world recalls the darkness that surrounded the worst terrorist attack in US history — which led to the invasions of Afghanistan and Iraq — the memories of those who landed in Gander offer a unique perspective.


Roxanne Loper, 28, was on Lufthansa Flight 438 from Frankfurt to Dallas. She and her husband were coming home with a two-year-old girl they had adopted in Kazakhstan. Without warning the plane dramatically slowed and made a hard right turn. Staring at the television on the back of the seat in front of her, she could see the plane was no longer heading towards the US but instead north towards the nearest point of land in Canada. Was there a problem? Was he trying to reach land because there was something wrong with the plane?

Roxanne and Clarke Loper with little Alexandria in 2001

Roxanne and Clarke Loper with little Alexandria in 2001COURTESY OF THE LOPER FAMILY

The pilot made an announcement in German. Loper couldn’t understand what he was saying but she recalls the other passengers gasping in shock. Another passenger leant in and told Loper and her husband the Americans weren’t allowing any planes to enter the US. They were going to land in Canada instead.

“People were scared,” she says. “We knew something bad must have happened but they wouldn’t tell us what it was.” The young couple held their new daughter as prayers murmured through the plane.

Aboard Aer Lingus Flight 105 from Dublin to New York, the pilot was more forthcoming. “Terrorists have struck the Twin Towers,” he explained. “We’ll be landing in Gander. I’ll keep you informed as I learn more. Please stay calm.” The words shot through 67-year-old Hannah O’Rourke. Her son Kevin was a New York firefighter and a member of an elite fire rescue team located in Brooklyn just across the bridge to Manhattan. If he was on duty, Hannah knew he would be in the centre of danger.

George Vitale, 42, was studying for a night school class when the pilot of Continental Flight 23 announced there had been a terrorist attack in the US. “I’m going to be busy, so I’ll talk to you when we land,” he said. “We’ll be on the ground in 15 minutes.” A New York state trooper, Vitale was part of the security detail for the New York governor George Pataki. He felt guilty he wasn’t there with him.

George Vitale with Derm Flynn, the mayor of Appleton, and Tom McKeon

George Vitale with Derm Flynn, the mayor of Appleton, and Tom McKeon

As Loper, O’Rourke and Vitale were imagining the worst, folk in Gander didn’t have time to think. They were told to get ready for planes and passengers — lots of them. School bus drivers, who were in the middle of a strike, laid down their picket signs and readied their buses to ferry passengers from the airport to town. Off-duty air traffic controllers showed up at the tower without being called. Churches, schools and social clubs, such as the Royal Canadian Legion, where passengers would be housed, put out an urgent call for bedding supplies.

In many ways Gander and Newfoundland were both uniquely suited to handle this moment. A part of the British Empire since John Cabot landed there in 1497, generations of Newfoundlanders had developed a steely sense of reliance on one another. In 1949 they voted (by the narrowest of margins) to join Canada. Gander itself was founded in the run-up to the Second World War, after the US and Britain agreed in 1938 to build the largest military air base in the world. Supplies and troops on their way to Europe needed to stop in Gander to refuel. More than 20,000 fighters and heavy bombers, manufactured in the US, stopped in Gander before joining the war effort.

Volunteers in Gander prepare hot meals for passengers

Volunteers in Gander prepare hot meals for passengers

After the war the base was converted to civilian use, allowing passenger planes to refuel there. Time, however, was not kind to Gander. With the advent of the jet engine the need for a refuelling stop evaporated, and the town slowly wilted as Gander lost its purpose for existing. Then 9/11 happened and those long runways that could accommodate jumbo jets were critical.

“Newfoundlanders are a different breed of people,” the Gander town constable Oz Fudge told me. “A Newfoundlander likes to put his arm around a person and say, ‘It’s going to be all right. I’m here. It’s going to be OK. We’re your friend. We’re your buddy. We’ve got you.’ That’s the way it’s always been. That’s the way it always will be. And that’s the way it was on September 11.”

Gander’s town constable Oz Fudge says Newfoundlanders are a ‘different breed’

Gander’s town constable Oz Fudge says Newfoundlanders are a ‘different breed’USA TODAY

The first plane to land in Gander that morning was Virgin Air Flight 75 on its way from Manchester to Orlando, Florida, with 337 passengers, mostly kids and parents on their way to Disney World. As the planes landed police officers took up positions around the aircraft, still uncertain what might be happening on board.

Once cleared through security, each planeload of passengers was housed together. Roxanne Loper and her fellow travellers were assigned to the Lion’s Club. Hannah O’Rourke’s plane was dispatched to the Royal Canadian Legion Hall. George Vitale got lucky. His flight was sent to the neighbouring town of Appleton, where many of the locals opened their homes to the plane people, as they were being called. Vitale stayed with the town’s mayor, Derm Flynn. And Rabbi Sudak’s flight was sent to Lakewood Academy, a school just outside Gander in the town of Glenwood. Population 778.

A school bus is used for transport

A school bus is used for transport

As they look back on those days, all of the passengers say they couldn’t believe the kindness they were shown. People opened their homes and allowed complete strangers to come in and take showers. When a Gander woman spotted two young ladies walking down the street, exploring the town, she came running out of her house and handed them the keys to her car and told them to feel free to use it. The manager of one of the town’s two department stores emptied her warehouse of toys so members of the volunteer fire department could race through the streets, sirens blaring, delivering gifts to every child who was on a plane.

A party for stranded children

A party for stranded children

While the world was in turmoil, these passengers had found a bubble where the madness didn’t exist. “I still get a lot of messages, just thanking me and the people of Gander and all the surrounding towns,” Constable Fudge tells me. “I respond to them all. And I’ve talked to a lot of people, and they always ask why we did it. They can’t figure it out. I tell them that for us it’s normal. I’m still not sure what all the fuss is about.”

Alexandria, the child that Roxanne Loper and her husband adopted, turned 22 this year. She has no memory of Gander but knows the story well. “I keep looking back on it,” Alexandria tells me. “Every anniversary I think about what happened. The dark side of that day and then what my parents experienced. My family was subjected to such a large act of kindness in Gander.” Today she is studying early childhood education and wants to be a junior school teacher. “I’ve always wanted a job where I can help someone,” she says.

Alexandria today

Alexandria today

Twenty years later and George Vitale remains filled with an enormous sense of guilt. On the tenth anniversary of 9/11 a memorial was opened on the site where the Twin Towers collapsed. Vitale can’t bring himself to visit the memorial, which is not far from his home in Brooklyn. “I just can’t,” he says, his voice breaking with emotion.

His experience in Gander and the friends he made stand in sharp contrast to the tragic events of that day. “I had such a wonderful experience in Gander, and that’s so hard to reconcile with what happened in my own back yard to people I knew that are no longer here,” he says. “That has never left me, the feeling of love by perfect strangers that looked after us. You know, I never experienced anything like that in my life.”

A school gym turned into a shelter

A school gym turned into a shelter

Vitale cries as he speaks. “And what has also never left me is the horrific brutality of the evil perpetrated on innocent citizens.”

No one understood that evil more than Hannah O’Rourke. A day after arriving in Gander aboard the Aer Lingus flight with her husband, Dennis, Hannah learnt that her son Kevin, the New York firefighter, was not only working but was missing. Every morning while in Gander, Hannah walked to a nearby Catholic Church and prayed. When she returned to the Legion Hall, several women would sit with her to keep her company, encouraging her to stay positive. One local woman, Beulah Cooper, would try telling her jokes.

Hannah and Dennis O’Rourke with their son Kevin, centre, who died in 9/11

Hannah and Dennis O’Rourke with their son Kevin, centre, who died in 9/11COURTESY OF HANNAH O’ROURKE

Twenty years later the two women continue to talk almost every month. In the years since 9/11 both their husbands have died. Now well into their eighties, the grief they share is rooted in friendship. “Life has to go on, we both know that,” Beulah tells me. “There’s not a lot more you can say. It’s just hard sometimes.”

It wasn’t until Hannah made it home from Gander that her worst fears were confirmed. Kevin’s body was found amid the 1.8 million tonnes of rubble on September 23, 2001. Fire officials believe he was in the stairwell of the North Tower, somewhere between the 65th and 70th floors, when it collapsed. He was 44. Every September 11, Hannah and her family visit Kevin’s grave. They pass around a flask of whiskey and reminisce.

When my book was published, I delivered a copy to Hannah and Dennis O’Rourke. The first anniversary of 9/11 was approaching and this was a difficult time, especially for Hannah, who was uncharacteristically quiet as I sat in their living room. My visit, however, offered her family a chance to remind Hannah of the colourful characters she met in Gander, including Beulah. Sharing those stories brought a smile to Hannah’s face and it was in that moment that I fully appreciated the significance of those days. Because in the midst of perhaps the worst moment in Hannah’s life, the people in Gander provided something she could hold on to that wasn’t sad and painful.

“I know what you are referring to,” Hannah’s daughter, Patricia, tells me. “You can see the lightbulb has dimmed down on her at times. And then like you said, if you bring up something, it just kind of brightens her back up. There is sadness. There is despair but through all of that there are good memories; you hate to say that, but there are good memories of the despair. It’s kind of like in your darkest moment someone shines a light for you and it brings a little brightness to a moment you want to forget.”


American airspace reopened on September 13, 2001, and over the ensuing days the Plane People departed. By that Sunday, September 16, all the passengers were on their way home. Rabbi Leivi Sudak was among the last to leave.

Residents and passengers pose outside the last plane to leave after 9/11

Residents and passengers pose outside the last plane to leave after 9/11

During his time in Gander, Sudak met some wonderful people as well and witnessed incredible acts of generosity, but he still hadn’t found the answer to the question of why he was there. He asked if there were any Jews in Gander he could meet with. On Saturday, September 15, a man in poor health arrived at the school. He shook the rabbi’s hand and introduced himself as Ed Brake.

Only a handful of people in Gander knew the truth about Brake. He was born in Poland to Jewish parents who paid to have him smuggled to England before the start of the Second World War as part of the Kindertransport, which helped nearly 10,000 Jewish children escape the Nazis.

“The chief rabbi of Berlin got on the train as the children are about to leave,” Brake told Sudak. “And he said to them, ‘Children, there are bad times ahead. We don’t know what’s going to be the outcome. You’re going to have to go to another land and you will re-establish yourselves.’”

Adopted by a family heading to Newfoundland, he was given the name Ed, raised Catholic and told never to tell anyone he was Jewish. When Brake asked about his Jewish heritage, he claimed, his adoptive parents became angry, even physically abusive. Even as an adult Brake hid from people that he was a Jew, only admitting his ancestry to his wife and children a few years earlier. For six decades Brake had never stepped into a synagogue or spoken to a rabbi. Until now.

Multiple diverted planes stranded at Gander airport after 9/11

Multiple diverted planes stranded at Gander airport after 9/11GANDER INTERNATIONAL AIRPORT

The arrival of Sudak stirred emotions in Brake he had long suppressed. A friend who knew the truth encouraged him to see the rabbi. In his dreams Brake started hearing the religious music played in his home before leaving Europe. The next night his mother came to him in a dream, a sign he should set aside his fears.

When he arrived at the school, Brake wasn’t sure where to begin. Sudak just encouraged him to say what was on his mind. Brake shared his childhood memories of the Nazis, as well as the small bits and pieces he remembered about his parents, who almost certainly died in the camps. Although he kept his Judaism private, he showed the rabbi his walking stick. On the top of the cane, the part he covers with his hand, he had engraved a small Star of David.

He told the rabbi he came because he wanted to share his story with someone before he died, so that his life would be remembered. After spending the afternoon together, Brake left and Sudak now had the answer to his question.

Brake died on October 13, 2008. The funeral was held at Gander’s Roman Catholic church and he was buried nearby in All Saint’s Cemetery. There is still no synagogue in Gander.

Sudak continues to find meaning in his detour to Gander. “I see people differently,” he says. “I look at people differently.” He explains how he tries to find the good in people. I’m surprised by his response, telling him that as a rabbi I would have thought he would have already been doing that. “Not as consciously as I have since being there,” he admits. In the years following his return to London, he often cites Gander as an example of what is possible in the world. “You have to learn from this,” he tells people. “The message is sacred.”United StatesShareSaveComments(50)

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Leadership

Posted: March 8, 2018 in Uncategorized

peggys-cove-in-storm28Leadership is a tough quality to define.   When sports scouts look at a prospect, they classify leadership as an “intangible.” Leadership is definitely a quality, and while tough to define, it is a trait and you’ll be able to distinguish whether a person has “it” or not.  

While leadership is certainly difficult to DEFINE, there are attributes that we can associate with signs of being a leader.

1. Visionary: A leader brings a vision to it’s group. It’s a plan by which others can FOLLOW. This vision brings the followers the emotion of hope and something the followers can strive to achieve. The vision should be clear and the leader should stand up for what the leader believes in.

“A leader is a dealer in hope” – Napoleon Bonaparte

2. Reliable: You don’t want to follow someone that shows up late or doesn’t do what they say they are going to do. In a leader, you want someone that’s reliable, with a message that people can follow. If leaders aren’t consistent in their efforts and their actions it causes followers to begin to doubt the dedication of the leader to the cause.  

3. Audacity: It takes guts to be a leader. It’s not for everyone. Some people would prefer to tag along for the ride and that’s fine. Not everyone can or should be a leader. 

4. Empowering People: Inherently, people want to do a good job. They want to succeed and make others happy. As a leader, you need to allow people to succeed. By empowering people, the leader isn’t doing the task for the person following the leader, but instead gives them the tools necessary to succeed. 

5. Positive:  ” A leader doesn’t need to be all about rainbows and sunshine, but there definitely needs to be a boost of positivity especially when tackling a difficult project or the “going gets tough.” An optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” – Winston Churchill

6. Motivating: If you don’t have the previous characteristics, it certainly isn’t very motivating for the follower to follow the leader let alone do a great job. A leader needs a vision, otherwise people don’t have a map and tend to get lost.  

 I do know that the quote from John Quincy Adams remains key to this …”If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader”.  

Whitehorse Sunset

“We’re in good hands, folks, real good hands. He cares about the people way up North, that we were trained our entire lives to ignore, trained our entire lives to hear not a word of what’s going on up there. And what’s going on up there ain’t good. It’s maybe worse than it’s ever been… It’s really, really bad, but we’re going to figure it out, you’re going to figure it out. It’s maybe worse than it’s ever been, so it’s not on the improve. (But) we’re going to get it fixed and we got the guy to do it, to start, to help.”

Sometimes things just align. And sometimes synergies and learning and lessons come from unusual places. The past few days have proven that. Two situations, seemingly unrelated have done exactly that. 

During the past year and a half I have been working (with others) diligently on a very challenging, almost logistically impossible and ambitious Canada 150 project. I have met with naysayers, hit roadblocks and invested much time and energy in something that I believe in. The Canadian Arctic Aviation Tour 2017 would bring a chance for the people of Northern Canada to truly be part of Canada’s sesquicentennial in 2017. I have talked often of my understanding of the lives of the people of the North but in the past week I have learned I actually knew nothing. Through my first unexpected event I have become a part of the Facebook world of the small, isolated communities of the north. I have learned a lot that truly gives me a new lens for my work, learned that when someone is missing you can’t wait for search and rescue but the community rallies, when you want to make potato salad for your son’s birthday but have no mayonnaise you don’t run to the store but learn that your friends cousin had a jar and maybe they can help, and that every night there are auctions for what seem like easy to access items to us such as a package of Tang or 2 cans of pop.  But even more importantly as I have entered their homes through this social media relationship I have been allowed to be part of I have seen the love, the resilience,the true sense of community but sadly the absolute isolation and often despair. 

And then this…It has been a weekend of deeper understanding of this country and it’s people. As a long time Tragically Hip fan I was of course watching with millions of others with my tissues in hand as Gord Downey, my favourite poet, spoke to us through his music and his lyrics. But at the end of the concert when he turned to Prime Minister Trudeau and spoke the words above I knew that I would continue my efforts to bring the event I have worked so hard on to the amazing people of the North. Thank you Gord Downey for using your illness and your celebrity to be a social justice advocate for these people.

For myself I am changed forever by what I have learned from this project. A greater understanding and appreciation for ALL Canadians.  The possibility of bringing hopes, dreams and opportunities to the people of the North outweighs any difficulty I may face in my efforts.  I will continue to work on this amazing event always keeping in mind that it is not the destination but the journey! So…. ‘we are going to get it fixed’ but it isn’t just up to politicians folks. We must ALL have a part in this!

 

 

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So I have no ‘resolutions’. A resolution seems to have no margin for error; it’s defined as a firm decision to do or not do something. Well there are days my friends that the resolve to perhaps not eat that amazing meal may just not be that important. I’m kind of flawed so I best scrap the perfection plan. Instead I will have things I will ‘challenge’ myself to do. Some may be outrageous and some will not be. In fact I have given a motto to one of my ‘challenges’ for this year; “The thing is so difficult I can not help but attempt it.” Others will be a little more ordinary.  Can I allow myself to once again enjoy a love of reading?  That is achievable.  I just have to allow myself the time.  I’m going to be less about more and more about less. If it can be said with less or done with less than so it will be. Will 2016 be my best year ever? Every year I have lived has taught me something and helped me to be the work in progress that I am.  What I have learned in 2015 is that the value of family and friends is not cliche…it has in fact saved my life.  So my 2016 new words to live by are ambitious and resilient while never losing sight of the ones that got me through 2015; dignity, purpose and most importantly hope.

ENOUGH ALREADY!!

Posted: October 5, 2015 in Uncategorized

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So… It is 2 weeks till the Federal election and 3 weeks until the Alberta legislature opens.  But today it is time for me to say something about the cesspool our electorate has decided to wallow in recently.  I do not generally talk about partisan politics on my social media but anyone who knows me is aware I have fairly strong political views. No today is not the day I am going to suddenly speak out about who anyone should vote for.  But I am going to speak out about what I have seen in the past number of months since the Alberta election and now during the Federal election. First things first; the economic crisis in Alberta and particularly related to Oil and Gas is a GLOBAL issue; not one caused by the prior PC government, nor exacerbated by the current NDP government. Could the PC’s have done some things differently? Possibly.  Should the NDP be approaching this differently? Maybe. But the reality is that we actually don’t know what this Provincial government is going to do until the budget comes out and the Leg sits. So I’ll reserve on that until then.  With regard to Federal politics what will be most important is that we all educate yourselves.  Everyday I watch people post on social media what they indicate (and maybe believe) is accurate information.  PLEASE check to see the source of that information. I can write a ridiculous story that is about one of the party leaders partying with the Pope on a spaceship, dress it up to look legitimate, post it on Twitter, hashtag the right people and within hours it would be shared thousands of times. No matter your views; look to authentic media and actual party information before sharing this propaganda. And please STOP the horrible attacks on people who do share their personal political views. The beauty of living in a democracy is that we can choose who we support but please don’t threaten, attack and malign someone for those views. In the words of the Dixie Chicks…

“It’s a sad sad story when a mother will teach her
Daughter that she ought to hate a perfect stranger
And how in the world can the words that I said
Send somebody so over the edge
That they’d write me a letter
Sayin’ that I better shut up and sing
Or my life will be over….”

“Democracy cannot succeed unless those who express their choice are prepared to choose wisely. The real safeguard of democracy, therefore, is education. ” Franklin D. Roosevelt  So let’s educate and inform ourselves about the choices available to us.

My Last ‘First Day Of School’

Posted: September 1, 2015 in Uncategorized

Brandon and Chris

As tomorrow is Chris’s (and my) last first day of school I feel so sad.  In 2009 when this day happened for Brandon it wasn’t quite as devastating as I knew my job as parent was not done as I had years left with Chris.  Oh I know it is the job of a parent to always be working toward them leaving but darn it I just love being their Mom and having them near me.  A few years ago I gave the boys a letter at Christmas and today it just seems appropriate to once again share these words with my boys…

To My Sons…. Did I tell you?

 

Now that you are almost grown I look back and ask myself….  Did I tell you?  Did I tell you all that I meant to tell you, all that I felt was important?  Did I tell you or was it lost in the shuffle of our everyday lives, the busy full days when I taught and didn’t know it.  What did I teach?  Was it strong? Was it good?  Will it root you in something real that will allow you to grow with a firm and sound foundation?  Did I tell you…

Did I tell you to love, not with a fair weather love, but with a love that accepts and cherishes unconditionally?  Love not with a quick and passing love, but with a love that is a quiet peace within your heart.

Did I tell you to be thoughtful?  Not to be a martyr or doormat to be trod upon, but to be aware of other people and their needs, to meet others with awareness and within your own framework be able to meet them halfway and on occasion go the other half joyfully.

Did I tell you to be courteous, not to display empty manners with no meaning but to live the courtesy born of caring?  And to express this caring through the small formalities and customs born of the years.

Did I tell you to be bold?  To be not afraid of the unknown, but to live life to the fullest, and meet each new experience with joy and anticipation.

And did I tell you to be cautious?  To temper your daring and sense of adventure with good judgement and consideration.

Did I tell you to serve other people if only in a small way?  There is growth and satisfaction in being part of something larger than yourself and your life will be richer for knowing this.

Did I tell you to maintain a sense of the past? To recall and uphold all that is best and meaningful in our country and in our society.  But never be afraid to speak out where you don’t believe or where there is room for improvement.  Work for what you believe, but work in a positive way within a structure of order and reason.

Did I tell you to find a part of nature that speaks to you then know it intimately and well.  For some it is a mountain peak, for some a windswept beach. Find your own and in it find your restoration.

Did I tell you to laugh, to dance, to sing?  There is a lot in life that is hard,  but take it as it comes and find the good…and make time to dance.

Did I tell you to be creative and explore the seed within you?  Find your creative spirit and let it grow.

And did I tell you the challenge of being a man-the challenge of balancing your worlds?- the need to achieve and the need to nurture-the need to be strong and the need to be tender-the need to meet the tests that life brings yet always keep love at the centre: letting it be the star by which you set your sail.

Did I tell you these things as we went along the way?  If I did then I am humbly grateful.  If I did not than you must choose for yourself. If it has meaning than accept it and make it your own.  If it does not, discard it.  Your life is yours to build as you choose

And did I tell you….

That I hope it will be a good life

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Leadership is a tough quality to define.   When sports scouts look at a prospect, they classify leadership as an “intangible.” Leadership is definitely a quality, and while tough to define, it is a trait and you’ll be able to distinguish whether a person has “it” or not.  What it is NOT is a measurement of your height or your weight or your ethnicity or your background.  In 2010 I met a young lady that within minutes I knew exemplified leadership. She was a newly elected Trustee for the Edmonton Public School Board, easily 25 years my junior who possessed the traits I feel are key to leadership.

While leadership is certainly difficult to DEFINE, there are attributes that we can associate with signs of being a leader.

1. Visionary: A leader brings a vision to it’s group. It’s a plan by which others can FOLLOW. This vision brings the followers the emotion of hope and something the followers can strive to achieve. The vision should be clear and the leader should stand up for what the leader believes in. I have watched this woman stand up to the most senior bureaucrats and elected officials but never without respect.

“A leader is a dealer in hope” – Napoleon Bonaparte

2. Reliable: You don’t want to follow someone that shows up late or doesn’t do what they say they are going to do. In a leader, you want someone that’s reliable, with a message that people can follow. If leaders aren’t consistent in their efforts and their actions it causes followers to begin to doubt the dedication of the leader to the cause.  This woman remained solidly focused and was where she needed to be.  She not only fulfilled the duties of her role as trustee but went beyond in her efforts.

3. Audacity: It takes guts to be a leader. It’s not for everyone. Some people would prefer to tag along for the ride and that’s fine. Not everyone can or should be a leader. Audacious?  This ladies middle name is audacity.

4. Empowering People: Inherently, people want to do a good job. They want to succeed and make others happy. As a leader, you need to allow people to succeed. By empowering people, the leader isn’t doing the task for the person following the leader, but instead gives them the tools necessary to succeed. Within her own Board she worked to built capacity so that if she was no longer on the Board they will be well placed to continue succeeding.

5. Positive:  ” A leader doesn’t need to be all about rainbows and sunshine, but there definitely needs to be a boost of positivity especially when tackling a difficult project or the “going gets tough.” I remember a few years ago when this young lady worked very hard to support safe school environments through a motion before the Alberta School Boards to protect LBGTQ students.  I sat with her in the hallway after the motion was defeated.  A few tears were shed but she stood up, smoothed the leg of her pants and said.  “We’ve got work to do.”

“A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.” – Winston Churchill

6. Motivating: If you don’t have the previous characteristics, it certainly isn’t very motivating for the follower to follow the leader let alone do a great job. A leader needs a vision, otherwise people don’t have a map and tend to get lost.  She also motivates others and that is going to serve her well as she has now moved on from the School Board and was recently elected as an MLA and then appointed as Minister of Health.  I am privileged to consider Sarah Hoffman a friend, a peer, an inspiration for young woman everywhere but most of all a ‘leader’.  That’s it and that’s all.

 I do know that the quote from John Quincy Adams remains key to this …”If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader”.  And to young woman everywhere Sarah Hoffman is a leader.  So for those individuals who have made negative comments that do not relate to this woman’s worth; keep your misogynistic comments to yourself!

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My musings as the New Year begins…

  • I am definitely not the same person I was a year ago, a month ago, or a week ago.  I have to believe that I am always growing.  Experiences don’t stop.  That’s life. Sometimes there are things in my life that are not meant to stay (thank God for that).  Sometimes the changes I don’t want are the changes I need to grow.  Growth and change may be painful sometimes, but nothing in my life has been as painful as staying stuck where I don’t belong.  The bottom line is that I can’t reach for anything new if I’m holding onto yesterday.  I hope others will offer me the grace to work in that direction and even if they don’t I need to do that for myself. Sometimes I convince myself that holding on makes me strong, but more often it is letting go and starting anew in the present that has allowed me growth.  I now know if my life is going to mean anything, I have to live it myself.   No; that does not mean my family situation is changing-it just means I have to choose the path that feels right to ME, not the one that looks right to everyone else.  In honour of my late Dad who’s memoir was named ‘One Rung At A Time’ it seems appropriate that the analogy that comes to mind for me is that it’s always better to be at the bottom of the ladder I want to climb, than at the top of the one I don’t even want to be on.   I commit to at least try not to wait until I’m halfway up the wrong ladder to listen to my intuition. Yes Nancy that feeling in your gut means something.  It is a waste to always be questioning myself when I am the answer.   “I have a choice and I am here now because of the choices I’ve made in the past.”  One of my favourite expressions is ‘When you blame others you give up the power to change.’  I will live that quote.   Every morning I will try to ask myself what is really important, and then find the courage, wisdom and willpower to build my day around my answer.   No wasted time, no fluff, no regrets.   
  • I tend to  think and think and think and accordingly will think myself right out of happiness a thousand times over, and never once into it.  I know that worrying doesn’t take away tomorrow’s troubles, it takes away today’s peace and potential.  So I have to try to stop over-thinking everything.   Right now this will be particularly difficult for me.  My biggest limitations are the ones I make up in my mind.  The biggest causes of any unhappiness are the false beliefs I refuse to let go of.  I know I am capable of far more than I  am presently thinking, imagining, doing or being.  I may not be where I want to be  yet, but when I really think about it, I am definitely not where I once was either.   I have to believe I can trust myself moving forward not because I’ve always made the right choices but because I’ve survived the bad ones, and taken small steps in the right direction.  I will focus on the right things and just do the best I can.  I can’t  be crippled by stress and self-loathing.  Everything is only as it is.  There’s no reason to let it destroy me.  I will breathe and let every moment be what it’s going to be.  What’s meant to be will come my way, what’s not will fall away.  My greatest gifts have definitely not always been wrapped as I expected.
  • Sometimes my time and energy is misspent on the wrong relationships or on too many activities that force me to neglect my good relationships.  A quote from Josh Radnor says “It’s not our job to play judge and jury, to determine who is worthy of our kindness and who is not.  We just need to be kind, unconditionally and without ulterior motive, even-or rather, especially-when we’d prefer not to be.”  I promise that it will be my intent to do that for others and I will ask for the same grace.  I too often let the fear of judgment numb and silence me.  My deepest thoughts and feelings often go unspoken, and thus barely understood.   I am the sum of the people I spend the most time with.  I choose to be around people that will help me grow me into my ‘best self.’   Those ‘wrong’ people can be so destructive to my soul.  I WILL NOT let people invalidate or minimize how I feel.  No one else lives in my body, or sees life through my eyes.  No one else has lived through my exact experiences and so no one else has the right to dictate or judge how I feel.  A great deal of unhappiness comes into the world because of confusion, bewilderment, and things left unsaid.  Many times in life I’ve regretted the things I’ve said without thinking.  But I’ve never regretted the things I said nearly as much as the words I’ve left unspoken. (Yes Mum I hear you).  I will not  hide my thoughts and feelings, especially when I can make a difference.   I will be brave and say what needs to be said.  When I don’t communicate effectively with those around me, there’s a lot of important stuff that ends up not getting said and a lot of beautiful emotion that ends up not being felt.  I will work to hear others even when what they say conflicts with my beliefs or understanding.
  • As Mahatma Gandhi (with whom I share an October 2nd birthday) once said, “Live as if you were to die tomorrow.  Learn as if you were to live forever.”  Life is a book and those who do not educate themselves read only a few pages. It’s clear to me-when I know better I live better.  Period.  All education is self-education I won’t learn anything I don’t want to learn.  I believe that because I take the time and initiative to pursue knowledge on my own time I will benefit from earning a real education in this world.  When I take a look at any widely acclaimed scholar, entrepreneur or historical figure I can think of, formal education or not, I find that he or she is a product of continuous self-education.  Perhaps this year I will pursue some formal education opportunities but continued self education will be most important.
  •  Life is short.  The risk to remain perched in my nest; particularly the one I have hidden in for the past 2 months, is far more detrimental than the risk it takes to fly.  This year I will spread my wings and I will fly. (Yes Dad my goal is for this to be both figurative and literal). I’m sure some of you don’t see me as a ‘nest sitter’  but I assure you I have not reached my full potential.  To accomplish great things, I must not only act, but also dream, not only plan, but also believe. This year I will be a positive motivator, a productive doer, and a go-getter who keeps my head in the clouds and my feet on the ground.  I will let the spirit of passion and possibility ignite a fire within me to do something worthwhile today, and I won’t forget to spread my enthusiasm to those around me.    This year I will take the time to touch my dreams.   They say everyone dreams, but not equally.  Too many people dream only at night in the quiet of their own minds, and then awake to find it was all an illusion.  I don’t want to continue to be one of them.  I want to dream by the day instead.  I want to be one of the people who dreams with their eyes wide open, and who works to make them come true.  I only have so much time, and I want to spend it where it counts.  

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 “As we express our gratitude we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words,                                   but to live by them. ”  John F. Kennedy

So on a last minute trip to Walmart today to buy an oversized roasting pan for my oversized turkey a gentleman in the check out line behind me said,  “Thank you for the work you do for our community.  I really appreciate it.  Politicians work hard for their constituents and are under appreciated.  Have a wonderful Thanksgiving.”  I was pleasantly surprised by his comment and although I don’t know him I am very grateful for his words.  This last few weeks have been difficult politically (and I get it times 2). There have been some controversial issues and sometimes disagreements.   What am I grateful for?  The fact that I live in this amazing country where I have the freedom to choose my own point of view, honour another persons opposing views and move forward.  I’m grateful for my amazing family; a husband who works hard to support his family and children who make me proud.  I am grateful for the gift of parents who taught me the value of service, hard work and open mindedness.  I am thankful for my mentors who have forged roads I can now travel.  I am grateful for my friends and sisters who are always there; to pick me up, to raise me up and to walk beside me.  I am grateful for the wonderful community of Drayton Valley but remain grateful for my Maritime roots. Gratitude means thankfulness, counting my blessings, noticing simple pleasures, and acknowledging everything that I receive. It means learning to live my life as if everything were a miracle, and being aware on a continuous basis of how much I’ve been given. Gratitude shifts my focus from what my life lacks to the abundance that is already present. In addition, behavioral and psychological research has shown the surprising life improvements that can stem from the practice of gratitude. Giving thanks makes people happier and more resilient, it strengthens relationships, it improves health, and it reduces stress.  Gratitude helps those who practice gratitude to be more creative, bounce back more quickly from adversity, have a stronger immune system, and have stronger social relationships than those who don’t practice gratitude. To say I feel grateful is not to say that everything in my lives is necessarily great. It just means I am aware of my blessings.
I try(not always successfully) to practice giving thanks to appreciate life more fully and to use gratitude to help put things in their proper perspective. When things don’t go my way, I try to remember that every difficulty carries within it the seeds of an equal or greater benefit. In the face of adversity I ask myself: “What’s good about this?”, “What can I learn from this?”, and “How can I benefit from this?”  This is more often than not a challenging exercise for me.  But as I  become oriented toward looking for things to be grateful for, I find that I begin to appreciate simple pleasures and things that I previously took for granted.  Today, I will start bringing gratitude to my experiences, instead of waiting for a positive experience in order to feel grateful; in this way, I’m on my way toward becoming not just grateful but maybe; just maybe a master of gratitude.

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Ten months ago I asked myself the questions: “Why did I decide not to run for Mayor? What about the School Board? Do you think you can do both?” I KNEW the right thing to do was to step down as a candidate for Mayor and do what I had planned to do initially. I would run for town council and run again for the school board. Could ‘I’ do this? Absolutely! So where do I sit this many months later.

 

1 | I Still Understand the commitment
Before I agreed to put my name on the ballot, I took the time to understand the commitment involved. I had gone through the learning curve for School board and I can assure you I have a significant knowledge of the work involved there and of the evolving state of education in Alberta. I am a super-engaged, present and prepared individual. It makes all the difference in the world in terms of my ability to work as a team to make good decisions, and move our region forward. I am keenly aware that there is a scope of work that happens outside the view of the council and board chambers that needs to be fully understood. I also knew that I was signing up for a four-year stint. Some people were concerned about my ability to serve on both school board and town council. The one’s who were concerned are those that don’t know me. I have very high energy and learn very quickly. I am a sponge for knowledge and have a governance understanding beyond many more seasoned politicians.
2 | I Read everything I can get my hands on
There are a myriad of documents, plans and meeting minutes. With regard to the school board I hit the ground running. I can say confidently that I am at least as well informed and prepared as any school trustee in the province on being up to speed on legislation, regulations, and policy while still taking the time to work on the softer visionary perspective necessary for our students. As far as the town council goes I have spent significant time on the Municipal Government Act , minutes, bylaws, the Municipal Development Plan, and other local documents and believe I have a solid understanding of the foundational documents necessary to do the job. I had the opportunity through my challenging a section of the land use bylaw a few years ago to learn a lot. I understand the basis for where we are going as a region, shaped by many voices, likely including your own.
3 | I Attend meetings
Prior to running for the school board I attended months of school board meetings. I was able to gain a lot of knowledge of what I could learn ‘outside of the minutes.’ I had of course done the same thing in preparation for my run at town council. I am significantly involved and believe I have the pulse of the community. I know the personalities and nuances of the existing council and management team.
4 |I have done Research
I have done my research. It is often said that the best perspective you are ever going to get is from those who have been in the roles the last three years, or in several cases, longer.I have taken the time to speak to many of our elected officials. Additionally I have spent time with community leaders, small business owners, and members of the greater community asking what they see as challenges and successes in our community.
5 | I Seek first to understand
This is one of my favourite mantras, one of the seven habits espoused by Stephen Covey: Seek first to understand, then to be understood. I did not run for either position propelled by a burning issue that I want to use as the fulcrum of my campaign strategy. I am keenly aware that for both the school board and town council that I am only one vote among 7, that there are 6 other sets of eyes looking at an issue. I know how to pull myself back from a potential emotionally-charged position on a certain topic, take an objective 360-degree view of the issue, listening to all sides, researching and reflecting on the strength and viability of my position. At the end of the day as an elected official I am charged with the responsibility of making a decision that is for the greater good of our community and region, based on all available facts and opinions.
6 | I am ready to engage
I believe that anyone who knows me is very aware of my belief in the necessity of community engagement. I take every opportunity to talk to people both formally and informally. I never back down from responding to a hard question. Sometimes that involves me doing some research. I am visibly present wherever and whenever I can be. I continue to connect with my community and they know I am always available to hear their questions and concerns and I ALWAYS get back to them. Proper engagement does not mean you just receive information. It means showing you heard them and then coming back with next steps.
7 |Who is Nancy?
I believe that I help people get to know me and what I stand for. This is done in many different ways: social media, website, blogs, news releases, special events, appearances, etc.
8 | I Keep it positive
OK, I know some people aren’t going to agree on this one, but I am resolute. I will choose the high road.
9 | I Embrace the fear! Was I a bit apprehensive at the prospect of actually fulfilling the responsibilities of these elected positions? No! Or at least so minimally that it isn’t worth being concerned. There is always the internal reaction to the prospect of putting myself in the public eye, of being held to a higher account, of having to keep my head when all about me are losing theirs and blaming it on me. Leadership is leaping into the abyss!

10 | Identify my compelling WHY!  There are life circumstances that put us in a position of seeking public office and community passions that have inspired us to take the next step in our leadership journey. Mine starts with the very basic concept that I believe in community service and have a passion for it. My service on the school board and town council strengthen my community, my family, and ultimately, you. But on a deeper level than that I believe I must do this because I have the capacity to make a difference. I am able to understand the complexity of the issues, I know how to work with a management team in a way that will move matters forward in a truly generative way, and most importantly I can deal with the high level process and still remain connected to my ‘people’. I am as passionate and concerned about economic development as I am about social policy. I believe it is imperative that I am able to do the governance work but at the end of the day talk to my constituents in a manner that reminds both my community and myself that I am but a representative of them. No more and no less!

The past four years have been extraordinary. I was elected to the school board in 2010 passionate and ready. The opportunity to serve, has been everything I thought it would be and much more. And now almost a year on Town Council has reenforced this. I’m grateful to my respected colleagues for their mentorship, support and dedication. I’m honoured by the citizens of this area who have allowed me to represent them on the Board of Wild Rose Public Schools and now the Drayton Valley Town Council. It has been a thrill to give voice to the students and families and I look forward to continuing to do so as a trustee for Wild Rose Public Schools and as a councillor for The Town of Drayton Valley. I have been so fortunate to share the positive attributes of my community with people from around the province, country and world. I have a passion to serve and I will look forward to continuing to make Drayton Valley and Brazeau County a great place to live, work and bring up your family.

You must be the change you wish to see in the world. Mahatma Ghandi.